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by Joe Fauss

Sex is a creation of God and the marriage bed is to be honorable, but sexual sin is Satan's most deceptive trap. Ungodly sexual involvement during a past life of sin and perversion continues to plague many of God's precious children, who are trying desperately to live a pure, clean, and sanctified life. Many other young Christians, endeavoring to live a righteous life while waiting for God's perfect marriage choice, are plagued with curiosity, temptations, and very real physical and emotional feelings. Satan continues to hide this trap using a permissive society, decaying Christian standards, and the darkness of secret sin.

Dealing with sex is common to everyone. It is not a plague in itself. It is part of our individuality. Remember, it is created by God. Today's Christian can overcome sexual sin. Virgin weddings can still exist. The thought life can be clean. There is an escape from temptation. Mature Christian relationships between young men and women can make the long walk toward the marriage altar a victorious one.

Sexual fantasy, pornography, masturbation, bad memories, flirting with sin, romantic familiarity, petting, and simply losing control, are all downward steps towards fornication, homosexual acts, and a destroyed life.

Sexual fantasy is a mind trip hidden to all except you and God. It involves the imagination; it is mental images, many times with real faces and people. It is like a daily episode of romantic lust with you as the leading actor, a series that many times runs for years.

Pornography is available except for those who will resist. It is a game of hide and seek with a hope that nobody sees. It is a lust feast that perverts the mind, arouses the body, and destroys the soul.

Masturbation is carefully hidden in a few all- alone moments. It becomes an addicting habit with the power to create you into someone you are really not. As a young adolescent many time's masturbation begins out of curiosity or through the influence of older children. It develops into regular sexual relationship experiences and experiments. It involves sexual fantasy and imagination.

Bad memories are consequence of sinful conduct. Mental pictures of pornographic or live perversions are developed and printed on your mind, and continue to give regular re-runs.

The system of the world has continued to leave morality and purity, and turn to corruption and destruction. Dating practices have gone from 1) Let's go as far as we can go; 2) 'Just don't get caught; 3) 'We will have to get married' to now permissiveness, promiscuity, living together, and having children out of wedlock without shame.

Homosexuality is being accepted more than you realize as simply another way.

A Christian cannot participate in any part of the worldly system of relationships and dating. If past experiences are part of your sinful past, you can never again think or act in the same way. You must learn a whole new system. It is now God's way. You can have victory in this whole area of your life. I want to give you some very important practical steps to take for total deliverance. Many spiritual problems, and lack of growth, result from failing to properly deal with sex.

First of all, Romans13: 14 says, "Put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof." II Corinthians 6:17 says, ".come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing." Make no excuse, don't let the sinful world be any standard for your behavior. There must be a Christian difference.

The only way to deal with fantasy is to combat it with reality. Sexual fantasy must be brought to the light. Get alone with God and confess it, let your ears hear what your are admitting. Then go to an elder, the leader who is watching for your soul, and confess it, tell it all. Don't sugar - coat it. You will be amazed at how small it becomes when exposed by truth. Never toy with it again.

Pornography must be avoided as a plague. One of our Commissioners refused to go down the aisle when he knew there was a magazine rack there. When possible avoid stores that sell pornographic magazines. Do not take a second look. Do not look behind the counter. Do not read restroom walls, or receive its advertisement. Never go in a magazine shop when you are isolated, as in a strange town where you are in this situation. Do not gaze in imagination as you pass massage parlors, adult bookstores, or peep shows. Do not get involved in touring sections of a city to view it's prostitution and pornographic problems. Do not watch suggestive T.V. programs. Turn it off! You are what you see! Lift your heart to the glory of God; lift your eyes to a higher calling.

Recognize masturbation as the destructive force that it is. Married people still must deal with this problem. It is not something that simply goes away. It must be dealt with by the power of the deliverance of the Lord. You cannot defend it. It cannot be justified. It is only defined as a bad habit that needs to be overcome. Destroy the time that you have been creating for it. Wherever it has been happening, change the scene. Do not linger in the shower. Meditate on the Scriptures until you fall asleep. One person told me that they had to hold on to the sides of the bed because of the stronghold of masturbation. Don't go to sleep with sin. Some argue that masturbation is necessary for sexual release. This in not true. God had a better way. At times there is a release while sleeping when you have nothing to do with it. Don't let this secret sin have a stronghold in your life.

Ask God to cleanse you. Ask God to cleanse your mind of the past. You cannot afford to flirt with sin, or enjoy temptation. Fill your mind with things that are pure and Godly. Do not cling to the temptation long enough to enjoy it, and then expect God's route. You cannot flirt with sin.

You must develop a complete new set of standards for your actions with a dating type of relationship and situation. First of all never place yourself with anyone who does not hold to the same Godly standards that you do. You cannot play games with yourself, your body, or God. No form of petting has any place for a Christian. There is more affection shown by respecting one another and helping each other keep God's standard of behavior. The Bible says that it is not good for a man to touch a woman. A woman is sexually aroused through touch, whereas a man is more attracted by what he sees and smells. Kissing is actually a part of sexual intercourse, and is an open door to sexual stimulation. In one full-time in ministry, several engaged couples made a commitment that there would be no kissing until after the wedding.

There are definite stop signs. Never put your hand on a person's leg or near a woman's breast. No form of fondling is ever moral conduct. This is a time when the law, touch not, taste not, handle not, is in effect. God had definitely reserved all sexual participation for marriage, and it is worth saving for a time that God would give.

There are also definite steps in dealing with homosexual temptations. A perverted world had left some of today's Christians with temptations of homosexual and lesbian tendencies that still liner to haunt them in their new life as a Christian. Sexual fantasy, imagination, pornography, and flirting with sin, must be resisted. An understanding of conduct: modesty in dress; bathroom courtesy, with never exposing yourself even to those of your same sex is necessary; excessive hugging; patting or rubbing your hands on another's body; these should be avoided. Be a man or a woman of God. Let this message penetrate your heart, soul, mind, and spirit. I cease not to warn you day and night have, the fear of God, now that He is watching and knows all. A Christian, whether single or married, must be an overcomer in dealing with sex. Keep yourself pure. We must, ". keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means when I have preached to others, I myself should be a cast away." (I Corinthians 9:27) Walk in the Spirit.

10 Steps To Conquer Impure Thoughts

1) Begin a war that you expect to win.
2) Replace the secret pictures in the gallery of your mind, by visualizing the Word of God.
3) Make a covenant with your eyes.
4) Memorize Scripture, and consistently quote the Word.
5) Remove hidden provisions for defeat. Romans 13:14 " But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof."
6) Reinforce your will by a bond of accountability to God.
7) Realize that winning a war means winning many battles.
8) Learn to live in the fear of God, which is the hatred of all evil.
9) Learn God's limitation to curiosity.
10) Use sensual thoughts as a springboard to Spiritual Victory.

I Peter1: 13 - " Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ."

II Corinthians 10:5- " Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ."

Isaiah 26: 3-"Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee."

Philippians 4:8-" Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

Proverbs 12:5- " The thoughts of the righteous are right; but the counsels of the wicked are deceit."

God gave us emotions so we can feel good about the things we think about.

Perverted emotions will feel good about doing something bad.

Emotional problems are the inability to express healthy emotions.

Satan is not a creator, but an extortioner, who would do anything to have possession of our thoughts.

There is no such thing as a failing Christian unless he quits before the victory is won.

If there is any pleasure at all in something that is wrong, it is only temporary.